Coming Out

Coming out can be quite a daunting task. Below are resources I’ve compiled on coming out.

Please remember that regardless of how out you are, your identity is valid. If you cannot come out for whatever reason – you’re not comfortable, you’re not ready, you’re not in a safe environment or country, or you just don’t want to – you and your queerness and/or transness is still valid.

COMING OUT ADVICE

Visit this page for all my advice about coming out.

HOW I CAME OUT TO MY PARENTS

This explains in depth how I came out to my parents, first as a lesbian in 2012, and then as a transgender man in 2014.

COMING OUT ON FACEBOOK

This explains how I came out online for the first time in 2015 and includes the text for the Facebook post I made about my identity.

HOW I CAME OUT TO MY KOREAN CATHOLIC GRANDMOTHER

My Korean Catholic immigrant grandmother was the last person I told. Visit this to learn how that went!

WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE COMES OUT TO YOU

This is a resource for people who are NOT transgender and queer who are wondering what they should / shouldn’t do when someone comes out to them!

INTERVIEWING MY DAD ABOUT MY COMING OUT

This is a six-part video series in which I interview my dad about his experience with my coming out. We discuss how I came out, his experience with acceptance of my identity, coming out this his family and my extended family, the concept of missing the “girl” me, and pronouns.