Pronouns

For Parents — Parents, part of your child’s transition will be you learning to use the appropriate pronouns, regardless of how you feel about them or how you view your child’s gender. A few things to remember: Mistakes do happen; it’s how you deal with them that matters. Apologize & correct yourself. My parents made mistakes and I reminded myself that this was their transition, too. Habit and history are not excuses. Habit and history Read more…

Dysphoria FAQs

Here are several questions from folks I’ve gotten over the years about dysphoria along with my answers!   What is body dysphoria like for you? Dysphoria has been a journey for me. I think a lot of it was rooted in recognizing myself in the mirror and how I felt in my body. I didn’t ever care so much about what others thought about it and how they saw me, although I’m human and social. Read more…

2019 in Review

  I have no idea how to encapsulate all the things I’ve learned in the past decade into a post, a caption, 10 slides. Nothing feels quite right. But here is my best effort. I have accomplished many things in the past decade that I am proud of. But I am most proud of ~how~ I got here. And the fact that I am still here, despite so many odds. Because, the reality is that Read more…

Holiday Thoughts

Holidays can be so very hard — for so many folks. If you are struggling, please reach out to the Trevor Project (1-866-488-7386) for 24/7 support. They also have text and chat lines open 24/7. To the trans kids, the gay kids, the bisexual kids, the queer kids who are in unsafe homes. To the ones who cannot go home at all. Your identity is valid regardless of their invalidation of it. To the fat Read more…

Thanks NAIS – SDLC was amazing!!

On December 6, 2019, I was honored to speak at the National Association of Independent Schools annual national diversity conference and it was amazing.  I gave the keynote address at the @NAISNetwork’s annual NAIS Student Diversity Leadership Conference (SDLC). Schools from around the country send up to six students. My high school included. But I never went. I never even applied. I didn’t feel like I could – I wasn’t out like I am now. I Read more…

Fighting Fatphobia

This summer, several people replied to a random story of me, shirtless, said, “You’re getting fat.” These comments might have absolutely wrecked me 8 years ago, when I was so very caught in my eating disorder. Online and in public, I was often terrified that anyone (most especially myself) would see me as overweight or fat or unhealthy. Now when I read these comments, I notice pieces of old pain, but mostly, I have a Read more…

The 2019 Tour and Media Coverage

From September 9th – October 21st, 2019 Schuyler toured the USA on his first non-stop speaking tour. The “Give Back” Graduation Tour included 43 Events, 26 cities, 18 states – in 39 days!! Thanks to everyone who helped organize and attend. The impetus for the tour came as Schuyler graduated and planned for his subsequent employment at Bright Jones, LLC in Seattle. While Brighton Jones had agreed to allow him to continue to speak, he Read more…

Choosing a College

The number one thing to remember when applying to a college is that YOU are the one going there. Not your mom. Not your dad. Not anyone else from your family. Not your college counselor. You. You are going to matriculate into that college in the fall, and you will have to experience it. I understand the pressure that many of us feel from our parents, our friends, and society at large. And I’m not Read more…

How do I get into college?

Before we even begin diving into getting into a college you’d like to attend, I want to ask you to ask yourself: Do you even want to go to college in the first place? I mean that. Ask yourself seriously: “Do I want to go to college?” And then ask yourself some more questions: Do you want to be in school for 2-4 more years? Are in interested in academic learning? Are you interested in Read more…

Testosterone

I began testosterone on June 3, 2015. I have taken it ever since. Check out this Instagram post for a series of videos about testosterone, this post for information on how I made the decision to take it, and this video for why I got top surgery before starting T. Where can I get testosterone? Testosterone can be prescribed by an MD (doctor) and, in some states, a physicians assistant and nurse practicioners. Usually the Read more…